I went to surprise my husband at the hospital with his lunch. His colleague looked at me with tears in his eyes and said: “He hasn’t told you anything, has he?”

wife for eleven months.

He did. Every morning, at a kitchen door, with a badge.

But he lied to a woman who had stood up at a fundraiser and told three hundred people exactly which husband she was proud of.

If somebody you love is carrying something and will not put it down —

look at what you have told them you admire about them.

Because that is usually the shape of the thing they cannot let you see them drop.